So, I have a dilemma that is about a year old. I keep thinking that it’s resolved, but then weird little things keep popping up here and there and I’m trying to figure out how to treat this situation. It’s kind of a long story, but I will try to keep it as short as possible.
I’ve had to deal with situations like this before, too. (This got long so I decided to reblog instead of reply, I hope that’s cool) I’ll spare you the details, but after having a very frank conversation via text message (“our friendship has run it’s course, you are a source of stress and negativity that I do not want or need in my life anymore. I wish you the best with everything in your life: great health, much happiness, and success. Please do not contact me anymore, in any way. I have taken it upon myself to block all channels of communication, and I would appreciate it if you would just leave it at that.”) So i blocked said person on facebook, twitter, via email, I logged into my cell phone provider and blocked their number from being able to call or send texts (it usually “wears off” after 90 days, so you may have to do it more than once if they are really assholes about it.) so basically the only way they could keep tabs on me is via tumblr (which I’m not sure they even know about) or coming to my house.
Having a record of this communication, especially all the times you’ve ignored calls/texts, and the fact that you clearly and blatantly asked both of them to stop communicating with you, means that if they continue, you have a case for harassment. Hopefully they’ll be smart enough not to take it that far. (this obviously will vary based on the laws where you live regarding harassment, but it’s not a bad idea. I never brought that up because I didn’t want the person to think I was threatening them or “daring them” to come at me in any way. I just wanted to be left the fuck alone, and luckily, I haven’t had any problems.) I would write it out, concisely and clearly in no uncertain terms, and copy and paste it to both of them. Do it on facebook and wait until you see that “Seen at 7:21pm” message on each one before you block them so you have proof that they read the messages.
Just my 0.02. *hugs* I hope everything works out. Don’t feel bad about it either. Just because they’re long time friends doesn’t mean they’re people you need in your life. You have to cut out the dead weight and the toxins to better yourself.